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lizblackdog ([personal profile] lizblackdog) wrote2012-03-05 04:27 pm
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Ring them bells for all of us who are left

"No man is an iland, intire of it selfe; every man is a peece of the Continent, a part of the maine; if a clod bee washed away by the Sea, Europe is the lesse, as well as if a Promontorie were, as well as if a Mannor of thy friends or of thine owne were; any mans death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankinde; And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; It tolls for thee...." - John Donne

Yesterday a person two of my friends loved died suddenly. This isn't about her, or about the husband or the friends that loved her. I never knew her (which strikes me as a great pity) and it's not my place.

But I've been there. I walked out of my front door a wife and walked back in a widow. It kills me to know someone else is going through that. It echoes back along the lines of shared friendship and hits me hard in my own most broken place.

Go and give someone some love and kindness today - for me, for everyone whose world is etched in pain and loss, for yourself. If you're reading this you probably would have anyway, because you are all wonderful people worth cherishing. Because while heartbreak is universal, so is love. I love you.

[identity profile] jaimefrazier.livejournal.com 2012-03-05 04:56 pm (UTC)(link)
Am sending you lots of loves and hugs. I too walked out a door a wife and walked back in a widow and there are still days it is hard to fathom he is gone. This month marks the 7th year and when I write it down like that it seems a long time ago and yet only minutes. Many hugs to you.
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[identity profile] lizblackdog.livejournal.com 2012-03-05 05:45 pm (UTC)(link)
It's the worst thing in the world. I hate that it happened to you, I hate that it happened to this really good guy my friends know and love. There's so much heartbreak in the world. Thank you <3

[identity profile] thenetwork.livejournal.com 2012-03-05 05:16 pm (UTC)(link)
love you too.
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[identity profile] lizblackdog.livejournal.com 2012-03-05 05:45 pm (UTC)(link)
<3 <3 <3

[identity profile] santaman.livejournal.com 2012-03-05 11:01 pm (UTC)(link)
*hugs* I know loss on all levels, never good.

I miss you around, and despite not being in touch much I do care about you.
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[identity profile] lizblackdog.livejournal.com 2012-03-05 11:15 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm not in touch with anyone much these days. I'm just too tired. And my brain has really been misbehaving lately. But I love you <3

You should come on Facebook. I'm a bit ashamed of it, but I post more there than here thesedays. Because I prefer Livejournal words to be thoughtful and properly written and I'm not up to that all the time - it's the mental equivalent of living on junk food because I'm too tired to cook, but at least it keeps me in touch.
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[identity profile] lizblackdog.livejournal.com 2012-03-06 01:15 pm (UTC)(link)
*hugsandlove*

[identity profile] huntingdon.livejournal.com 2012-03-06 07:44 pm (UTC)(link)
best wishes
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[identity profile] lizblackdog.livejournal.com 2012-03-07 05:02 am (UTC)(link)
love ya darlin' <3

[identity profile] purplewaxhand.livejournal.com 2012-04-22 04:19 am (UTC)(link)
How are you? Haven't seen you in awhile.

[identity profile] in-summer-leaf.livejournal.com 2012-06-16 12:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Hi Liz! Coming in very late on this one. I just stopped in on impulse after I reread some threads at Carpe. I so much enjoyed that conversation between Ruby and Hisoka in Ruby's intro log, and I never really got to say I appreciated it.

I, also, have lost some significant people in my life, and it's made me think about what's important. We can't stop them from going, but we can do as you suggest -- give as much love as we can while we can, to whomever we can. And I've always loved John Donne's poem -- nobody has ever said it more clearly or beautifully.
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[identity profile] lizblackdog.livejournal.com 2012-06-16 01:18 pm (UTC)(link)
oh heyyy. I'm coming back to Carpe, I just had a spell of being really unwell and braindead and it lasted longer than I expected.

thank you XD

[identity profile] in-summer-leaf.livejournal.com 2012-06-21 07:42 am (UTC)(link)
I hope things get better for you.

And I'll see you at Carpe, then! ;D