lizblackdog | Remember better stuff exists

Three things have made me cry this morning.

The first: I know (because I've had this conversation with a few of my geekier friends) that I'm not the only one who looks to fandom for parallels to life, love, "real" people and relationships, the universe and everything. I suppose it's reassuring to know it's not a form of mental illness - or at least that it's not a brand new one. Watching the last season of Babylon 5 the week before the anniversary of John's death brought a parallel to mind that I'd never thought of before, and also brings Neal's Marcus quote to mind:
"Wouldn't it be much worse if life were fair? And all the terrible things that happen to us come because we actually deserve them. So now I take great comfort in the general hostility and unfairness of the universe."
(Edited to add: Don't mistake that for me whining about the things that have happened to me. What you're seeing is my profound, eternal gratitude that I haven't had the fortune I deserve.)

The second: Mitch Benn's tribute to John Peel. Because I was another one who stayed up late recording new songs off the radio, and a good half of the music that keeps me going was music I'd have never heard if not for Peel.

The third: The realisation that I only get like this when I'm pre-menstrual, and will therefore probably be bleeding all weekend instead of getting shagged half to death at the naked sauna. Even my own reproductive system is against me.

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Damn repro systems :(
Laura had hers last night on her birthday so I couldn't give her one of the presents I wanted to give LOL

it sucks.

i haven't given up hope. I'm not bleeding yet and sometimes the premenstrual idiocy starts happening a week or more before the bleeding. But it doesn't bode well.

well, you know what I always say, tampons+anal=DP
lol

Hey, bleeding never stopped me from shagging.

Depends who you're with. I wouldn't let it stop me with someone I knew reasonably well, but naked sauna action is a. in public (sort of) and b. involves random strangers, so I kind of want to not be bleeding.

Also, it tends to make me nauseous, grouchy and Not In The Mood.

Ah. All reasonable points. Although I tend to be grouchy and feel like I deserve it at that point. ;)

Hang in there Liz. I'm sure you'll make up for it once you're through this next cycle.

maybe. I'd like to think so. There's a few reasons why it might be tricky.

I totally get your reproductive organs being against you. LOL

That's why I make mine pay by only allowing them to bleed four times a year. LOL I'm going to schedule it for this coming weekend since I have nowhere to go and nothing to do, other than seeing the parental units.

Yeah - I used to do that when I was on the Pill, but I'm a lard-arsed chainsmoker with a family tendency to strokes, so I stopped doing hormonal birth control in my early 30s. It comes when it comes - although the Mirena does make it a lot lighter.

I don't know what Mirena is ... In other words, it's not hormonal birthcontrol? Is it IUDish?

And yeah, I stopped smoking because of the hormone-induced stroke percentages. With my PCOD, I'll always be lardy-arsey. ;-)

It's the new style of IUD that's impregnated with a very low dose of hormones - it's much safer than the pill because the hormones are delivered right to where they need to be working and aren't sloshing round the entire bloodstream. It's got a failure rate comparable to a tubal ligation and has the effect of reducing and sometimes stopping periods as well - mine didn't stop but it made them a great deal lighter, which rocks. I love it.

[[[sympathetic hugs]]]

Keep the music playing, then he really isn't gone. And pet your puppies, that helps.

I'm taking a three-month-cycle pill these days and am positively gleeful about it. However, strenuous sex is what I call "my patented cramp cure" and so far my men friends have gone along with the gag, particularly with slippery fun in the shower afterwards.

I find a gentle orgasm without moving too much sorts cramps out beautifully, but the innards are a bit too tender for penetrative pounding.

also, bleeding on someone you know in your own bed is one thing, quite another with multiple sweaty strangers in a sauna.

but I've not started bleeding yet, so there's hope!

yeah - I have a bunch of Peel Sessions from bands I love on the hard drive. Yay internet!

"Wouldn't it be much worse if life were fair? And all the terrible things that happen to us come because we actually deserve them. So now I take great comfort in the general hostility and unfairness of the universe."

Ya know what's strange? I haven't thought of this quote for quite some time ... yet ... I've been living by it more and more.

Damn ... I love life.

Hope you have a long pre-menstrual and only start bleeding after that final "Ohhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!"

;)

*kram*

So do I love life - every breath of it. Perhaps even more than I did once, because I have a duty to love and live for two now.

Have I told you lately how pleased and happy I am that things are going well for you, by the way?

Thanks, babe .. very sweet of you :)

*big big huggles*

I know I look to fandom for guidance too (and IMO, some world leaders could do worse than check out B5 and DS9 for diplomacy advice!) ... that Marcus quote is genius.

*joins in also with hatred of PMT* =(

My only trouble with excellent B5 quotes is that there are so damn many! I have trouble remembering them.

sappy icon love!

p.s. Naamah cat just took a header into the dogs' water bowl and is soaked from head to foot. And she doesn't care. She's tearing round the room like a squirrel on speed leaving wet pawprints on everything.

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