"I'm not going anywhere" - Major Kira in Heart Of Stone

[lizblackdog]

It's dark, it's pissing with rain, I have two loads of laundry and a bag of books and shopping. Too much to walk home with and Mum's fallen asleep, so a lift doesn't look likely.

Besides, I haven't hoovered yet, there are likely to be fireworks again tonight, I'm immensely enjoying reconnecting with my huge stash of DS9 episodes on videotape and Mum has about a pound of chocolate left over from Hallowe'en.

Extreme laziness is hereditary, yes... I'd download Gaim while I'm here but I'm afraid if I do that I may never leave.

(oh yeah - still horny. It's one of those more-you-get the more-you-want things, evidently...)

Comments

[lizblackdog.livejournal.com]

Remember when I started talking to you? I was nearing the end of a three-year dry spell then.

Can't say it ever went away.

[james-the-evil1.livejournal.com]

but it wasn't as BAD
It would've eased
like the dull ache of an old tooth

[lizblackdog.livejournal.com]

It was, it was physically painful at times. I remember pacing the floor and crying from sheer frustration. Regular sex, relationships, complications and all, has NEVER caused me as much unhappiness as the lack of it.

You'll never win this argument with me, sweets. The most you'll get is that I'll agree to disagree.

[james-the-evil1.livejournal.com]

but wasn't that as much the lack of CONTACT as it was the lack of sex itself?
I have plenty of physical intimacy, I couldn't live without that

[lizblackdog.livejournal.com]

That was a large part of it, yes. But physical intimacy without sex is almost equally frustrating. I can cope with it if I've had definite advance notice that there won't be sex - otherwise the disappointment and frustration is worse than the absence of contact would have been.

[james-the-evil1.livejournal.com]

but if it's a given there won't be sex it shouldn't be an issue
rather like cuddling with a family member or less hairy/smelly dog

:-D

[lizblackdog.livejournal.com]

I cuddled my dogs PLENTY in those three years - I still do, but it hardly comes close to compensating for lack of sex...

It's still an issue. But if I've been given clear notice that sex isn't happening I can control myself.

Just.

[james-the-evil1.livejournal.com]

*eyes you suspiciously*
I think if I ever come visit I'd need to tie you to the bed, just to be safe

[lizblackdog.livejournal.com]

That's always fun! :-D

[james-the-evil1.livejournal.com]

fun HAH
I'm trying to make sure you don't molest me while I sleep